Thursday, 29 March 2012

Perspective Back, and a Free Portrait!

It literally took me a second of talking to Ben to gain my perspective back.  I mean, we knew for a while now that some people thought Owen was autistic.  It doesn't matter to us.  They see somebody who has limits--we see somebody who has endless potential.  Ben and I talked a while ago and decided that we would never look at Owen as somebody who is handicapped in some way, but rather think, talk and act as if he could do anything.

Even though I told the lady who was testing Owen that it didn't matter to me what he was, she still acted as if it was a big deal.  She was very nice, but she kept saying that maybe I should take some time before going home, take a walk, get used to the idea.  That didn't appeal to me at all. That would be acting as if something were wrong and that I had something to mourn.  I didn't want Owen to think that something was the matter.  And I don't have anything to mourn.  I still have a healthy beautiful boy who has crazy long eyelashes and an insatiable talent for fun and imagination.  He has a wonderful life ahead in which he'll grow up to be a good man.  His brain works differently than 'normal' or 'average' children, but why do I have to see that as bad?  I could even go so far as to say it is good.  And anyways, he is so young and there are so many things we as parents can do to help him learn and grow and develop.

Anyways, to move on, rather abruptly...

I've been wanting to add watercolour portraits as an example for my 'custom portraits' section of my shop.  Problem is, I don't really have an example of one.  So I kind of just grabbed a random picture off the internet that appealed to me and painted it as an example.


It is not the best example, I did it kind of quickly--not to mention, it is a little creepy.  I mean, I don't even know the girl.  What if (on the off chance) she actually one day stumbles upon my etsy shop and sees a picture of herself there??  I know the odds aren't good, but still! Crazier things have happened.

So I came up with this idea.  The first person who comments (who wants one) I will paint a watercolour portrait for them for free in exchange for using it as an example on my shop.  Sound good?

6 comments:

  1. ahh! no fair, I want one too!!

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  2. haha OK Delanie now you just have to pick out a photo and send it to me, you have my email right? Or you could send it through facebook.

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  3. what a wonderful, wise woman you have turned out to be. Stick to yer guns - your right!

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  4. i would consider getting a second opinion about owen. i really don't like how often they just put labels to behaviors... and talking to evan he told me that ben folds had a learning disability and his mother never told him, she just was there to help him work hard to achieve things.... and that's totally what i would do. you have the right attitude!

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  5. Thanks! yah, I like that. I have every intention of helping Owen to feel as if he is perfectly fine and there is nothing wrong with him, because I don't think there is anything wrong with him. Also, I don't see a point in getting a second opinion--They will do the same tests and come up with the same results. They see Owen for a couple of hours and I am with him almost every hour he is awake. I think what I think/feel about him is more important, you know?

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